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pm 6:25 Sunday 8 February 2004

"People are into control and fear and buying things," David said in Friday's secret meeting. That makes total sense to me. I got this idea to write a book a person could carry around with them, to look up how to defend themselves with words while they're out and about, sort of a "Field Guide to Non-escalating Verbal Self-Defence," and polished the whole thing off in two intense months. That's control. Then I spent two months living on the edge between the workaday world and sleeping, until the part of me that dreams at night reappeared. Now that's the opposite of control.

I've never had any trouble with fear, because I've always seen it as sort of an adrenaline trip, more a temporary influence than something to identify with. If I'm feeling frightened, I simply turn around inside myself and give myself comfort. Something from my childhood, I tell myself, and there's nothing in the here-and-now to be frightened of. I'm here with you, I tell myself, and I can take care of you. Understanding seems to be the opposite of fear.

Now buying things is a whole other matter. If I weren't forty thousand dollars in debt I'd be out buying things right now. I really need a new BMW, a rear-projection TV, two new blankets from L. L. Bean, and a bunch of furniture. I could do that tomorrow.

 
 
 

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